from 2013

Here is a post from a private journal that I wrote in 2013. Thought it was worth sharing.

I think if you have found someone to spend your life with, someone you love and can truly see forever with, you should celebrate that, every day. Life gets hard. Relationships get hard. People make mistakes, even when they love someone so much it hurts, and those mistakes can't be taken back. But they can be forgiven. Sometimes we pick the wrong people, and we want to believe in it, and it's not real. But once in a while, this miracle happens and a person finds that other person who just completes them. Does that mean they don't bicker or argue or disagree? Absolutely not. But it means they have an invaluable gift.

To have someone that is on your side, and will love you no matter how your body changes or your ideas change over the years. Someone that will help you wade through those changes, and find yourself time and again. To have someone to return that same love to. So many people take that for granted. So many people call it love when maybe it's just convenience. I don't know, I've been alone for a long time, and I truly don't know much. But what I do know, is this:

If you have found that person, you should dance with them every day if you can. Three minutes out of your day to just appreciate one another and be near each other, without worrying about finances, the economy, jobs, family, politics, etc.

It doesn't matter what song it is. Maybe it's "The Luckiest" by Ben Folds or "Through the Years" by Barry Manilow. Maybe it's a song no one has ever heard of. Maybe it's a song that everyone has heard of. It doesn't matter. We only have one shot at this life, and if you have someone to share your days with, someone you're truly connected to - you are blessed. So, dance in the kitchen while dinner is cooking. You never know if it's your last chance. Celebrate today.

If you have your penguin, you know. Go dance. And if you haven't found that person, or maybe found them and have lost them in some way, dance with them in your heart. Love is the best thing we have.

Who knows, maybe I'm just an idealistic romantic. I can't help it. I have the greatest example. My parents have been together for 30 years, and created this wonderful chaos that I call family. And I'm grateful and joyous and I know that no matter what happens, no matter who comes and goes, this family will always be there. And it was built from the love of two people. Two people that have seen each other through difficult emotional situations, life changes and struggles, loss, and disappointments and still support each other.

How could I possibly settle for anything less?